There’s No Rush to Get Married

Millennials don’t need to stick to the same schedule.

Photo by Ben Rosett on Unsplash

Awhile back, I read an article that bemoaned the latest thing that millennials are killing: marriage. The best time to get married, the article claimed, was in your early 20s.

I thought about that recently when a family member was describing me to someone else. He exaggerated the number of years I’d been married, saying I got married at 23. When I corrected him, he said it sounded “better” if I got married younger.

I actually did get married a little younger than most people do, and while it worked out for me, I couldn’t possibly have gotten married at 23. (For starters, I hadn’t met my now-husband then.) And I’d caution people against the idea that you need to marry as soon as possible.

I certainly remember the pressure, though. When I was in my early 20s, my social media exploded with wedding photos. It seemed like everyone I went to school with was getting married, and there I was, sitting around with nobody.

But back then, I was going to college five days a week and working every weekend. I was not ready to focus on a relationship, let alone plan a wedding. Nor could I afford it.

For many young people, a major reason they’re waiting comes down to finances. Wedding Wire…