You Have to Write Through the Bad Days
We all have bad days. Sometimes, we have really bad days.
For me this week, it was a flat tire, a storm, and a string of tough days at work. Other people I know are navigating actual tragedies: job loss, a death in the family, or the aftermath of a serious car accident.
Rough life events can take a lot of time to deal with. Worry seeps into our thoughts and makes it hard to work.
I know that when things get tough, the last thing I want to do is sit down and write something positive. Especially when I’m dealing with a writing rejection. I just want to curl up in a blanket and eat chocolate until the storm, literal or figurative, passes.
Sometimes I really am busy, and I can’t write. But sometimes, I can and I make excuses.
I find that when I do sit down and write, I feel better. Gathering my thoughts helps me take my mind off things. Writing gives me perspective and helps me personally and professionally.
I know that rejection isn’t the end of the world. If I don’t get into a publication, there are hundreds more that would happily take my work. And bad days at work happen to everyone.
A metaphor I like to think about is kintsugi. It’s the Japanese art of repairing cracked pottery with gold. I try to remind myself that one setback or failure doesn’t mean the end; we can keep going.
When we write, we can fill our cracks with gold. All of the challenges we conquer give us a unique writing voice. And our experience can help us guide others who may be experiencing the same thing.
In my case, I could easily use my rough work days or rejections as an excuse not to write, but I know I’ll be better off if I power through and keep going. I’ll never be a stronger writer if I don’t try.
Sometimes, there are no easy answers to our problems. Maybe the cracks seem too big to fill right away. But writing, and connecting to other writers and readers, helps me find the gold in my life.